Fashion Business Owner Musings: What Other People Want Isn’t Actually All That Important

startup fashion business owner musings

OK, I’m not completely brainless. I know that as business owners, we need to take into account the needs and wants of others. Customer as well as team member needs and wants in particular are things we can’t ignore. While overly-opinionated industry people, unasked for 2 cents givers, and know-it-all’s, are the ones we can block out completely, if we so choose.

BUT (and this is a big but), I’m learning that regardless of which category we’re talking about,  there needs to be balance. There needs to be a point at which we say, “OK, you have a right to your opinion. And I have a right to completely ignore your opinion.”

In the recent weeks I’ve been experiencing a lot of this:

“can’t you just…” and “why aren’t you…” and “I hope you don’t plan to….” from a lot of people. And it’s getting to me.

I care what people think. I do. I wouldn’t be good at what I do, if I didn’t care. But there is a limit to what I’m willing to accept as helpful opinion from people.

And you should too.

You know what I’m talking about, right? I’m sure you’ve had your fair share bullshit opinions from people who think they know better. As business owners, we all do.

People think they have an open invitation to tell you how you should be doing something, whether you want to hear it or not. Unbelievable.

Unfortunately, I don’t think they’re going to stop any time soon. But that doesn’t mean that we have to put any stock into what they’re saying. I know that this isn’t exactly easy, but it is possible.

They will tell you what to design, how to run your business, what to say and what not to say, how you should spend your time, and anything else they feel like.

And you know where this often stems from?  Their own wants and needs. It’s not about what’s best for you and your business. It’s about what they want from you and your business.

This sucks.  It sucks because a lot of us take stuff to heart. We care about our customers, collaborators, team members, and contemporaries. We care what they think and we care about how they view us.

Sometimes it hurts. Other times it will makes us question everything we’ve built so far. And yet other times it makes us so mad that we scream.

But we can’t let ourselves feel like this.

Because if we don’t, we’re hurting no one but ourselves. We’re allowing ourselves to get physically and emotionally sick over something that they aren’t thinking twice about.

Remember this. We’re the ones who’re doing something different. We’re the ones who are taking our lives into our own hands and building something that we believe in. We’re doing something that most others only dream about doing.

So don’t worry, as long as you continue to do what you love with all the passion you have, you win.

All my love and encouragement,

-Nicole
Nicole Giordano
Nicole Giordano
Nicole

Nicole is the founder of StartUp FASHION, an online community and support system for independent designers around the world. She’s a traveler, a weaver, and a foodie. A deep love for the craft of fashion pared with an adamant belief that success is defined by the individual, led her to found StartUp FASHION were she helps independent designers and makers screw the traditional fashion business rules, create their own paths, and build businesses they truly love. More than anything else, she’s in the business of encouragement and works every day to remind makers and designers that they have something special to offer the world and that they can, in fact, do this thing!

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    Antonina Clarke

    Thank you for this and the keeping up all night worrying about biz article you recently posted!! Both very soothing to see with helpful advice.

    There are so many different ways to do it all, just to hear other boats on the same rising tide very inspiring as always 😉 Thanks Nicole!

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    Sumiyyah A. Rasheed

    Nicole, just wanted to comment on your post. Lots of pain. You all are doing a great job! Good bad indifferent you are giving it your heart. I appreciate you.

    Keep your core values in front of you and the reason you started the project. Feedback is good, but you know what works for your business. It’s your business. Do it the way you believe it will be of the most benefit to your users.

    ***And you know where this often stems from? Their own wants and needs. It’s not about what’s best for you and your business. It’s about what they want from you and your business.

    Yep!

    This sucks. It sucks because a lot of us take stuff to heart. We care about our customers, collaborators, team members, and contemporaries. We care what they think and we care about how they view us.
    Sometimes it hurts. Other times it will makes us question everything we’ve built so far. And yet other times it makes us so mad that we scream.

    It’s ok to question. Those conversations with yourself are good. You get more insight to make yourself better. Let the negative stuff roll off like sweat and keep it moving.

    Sumiyyah A. Rasheed
    Chief Lingerie Addict & CEO
    Ann Nahari
    http://www.ann-nahari.com

    • Nicole Giordano
      Nicole Giordano

      Thanks for your comment, Sumiyyah. I’m feeling good about where I am in business. But I wanted to share this post because I know others are going through it. 🙂

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