I have a really hard time accepting the fact that I don’t know everything.
I mean, in relation to my business. I want to be able to do it all and have all the answers. So when I don’t, I get down on myself. Sometimes I actually get pissed off at myself. Ridiculous, I know, but still. There’s no way I can know everything about everything but for whatever reason, I expect myself to.
Take our membership community, for example. I don’t think there’s anything I enjoy more in my business than interacting with our members. I love to learn about what they’re working on, get to know them, and share advice and insight. I love to help in any way I can.
But it’s when I can’t help, or at least I can’t “solve” everything, that I start to feel bad, like I’m failing them.
This is an issue because I’m setting myself up for failure. No one can solve all problems. I’m putting too much pressure on myself. I need to see that what I can do is connect our members to other experts or resources for helping them. And this in itself is helping! I am, in fact, using my network and relationships to help them with their problem.
The reason I’m writing about this because I’m willing to bet that I’m not the only fashion business owner out there with this issue. Yours may come in a different form but there’s a good chance you’re doing it.
You’re putting so much pressure on yourself to know and do everything, that you’re actually having a negative impact on your fashion business.
Listen, I get it. As an independent business owner, you are wearing all the hats (and shoes, and jackets, and scarves). You are doing it all and when something comes your way that you don’t know how to do, it’s easy to get down on yourself. The reality is that sometimes you need help and there’s nothing wrong with that.
You don’t need to know how to do everything. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and be OK with asking for help.
It will be a difficult shift, I know. But you got this!… Except when you don’t. And that’s OK too.
Lots of love and encouragement,