You know those days when nothing seems to go right?
When every time we turn around there’s a new problem to solve, there’s a technical issue that we don’t know how to fix, there is too much money going out and not enough money coming in, there’s disappointment, there’s frustration.
We know in our hearts that we are the lucky ones. We are here, we are working on what makes us happy. But it doesn’t change how we feel some days.
When things aren’t working the way we want them to.
When we have issues to address and problems to solve but feel like all we want to do is fold ourselves in half and hide under the bed covers.
Dealing with this is most certainly something that gets easier as we continue to build our businesses. But it doesn’t mean it goes away.
There are still days I want to stay in bed and talk to no one. There are still days I cry out of frustration.
For a long time (and still every now and then) I let these thoughts and feelings and doubts impact my drive and my confidence.
Over time I’ve learned that these feelings are natural. That when you’re working on something so different than what is comfortable you are going to hit walls, feel discouraged.
The key is to know what to do when these feelings pop up.
It’s not about ignoring them. It’s about recognizing them and then taking the steps, when you’re ready, to move past whatever is holding you back.
It’s about strengthening your mindset.
A strong mindset is a pillar in building a business. Without it, you’re constantly hitting walls and letting those walls keep you from making progress. I talk about this a lot in the free class I offer called How to Launch Your Fashion Business Without Having Any Prior Experience. <– If you haven’t yet, definitely register for it. It’s good.
Over time I’ve learned that it’s OK to have a good cry and let it out.
Over time I’ve learned that in order to do my best work, I can’t do only work.
Over time I’ve learned that while feeling sorry myself will get me nowhere, cutting myself some slack will go a long way in helping me grow.
I believe it’s my body and my mind and my spirit telling me to chill the hell out. It’s OK to take breaks.
There is no way that we’re all going to embark on this journey of building our businesses without mountains to climb and disasters to avert. So we have to be OK with that.
But it’s about what we do next.
It’s about how much time we give ourselves to be in that break and what we do to pull ourselves out of it and continue to go after our goals.
We have to give ourselves a break, we have to stop judging ourselves unfairly.
The life we have all chosen to lead is one of uncertainty and questions, rethinking and revising, wondering and trying. Not everything we do is going to work. Not everything we do is going to be right.
So stop beating yourself up when you have a day with no motivation. Stop second-guessing yourself when things go wrong. Stop feeling silly for needing a good cry. Stop thinking you have to work all the time or otherwise you aren’t really trying.
Honestly, it’s OK if sometimes things go wrong. That’s a given.
Just make sure that you have a way of pulling yourself out when you’re ready to keep going.
You’ve got this.