For most of my entrepreneurial life, I’ve felt behind. Behind on emails, behind on projects, behind on tasks. I felt like I was in a constant state of catch-up. Always looking at my to-do list and wondering what I could squeeze in here and there to check off the list.
This feeling of being behind is something that has never really stopped because, annoyingly, the more the business grows, the more opportunities appear and the more there is to do.
The thing about feeling behind is that is comes with a big fat side of guilt.
Feeling behind causes you to be in a constant state of worry and fretfulness that things won’t ever get done. It often starts to impact that way you feel about your business and whether or not this ongoing feeling is really what you want all your days to be.
But here’s the thing that I realized.
We’re doing this to ourselves. We’re setting precedents that we’ll respond to emails within a few hours; we’re adding things to our to-do lists without any sort of prioritizing so that everything feels life-or-death important; and feeding into our own mania.
Like it or not, we are responsible for our chicken-minus-head approach to life business and therefore it is only ourselves we can look to in order to fix it.
We have to train ourselves not to feel it. It’s a psychological thing, you know? The more we feed ourselves our own lines of “I’m so behind!”, the more frantic and weighed down we feel. We have to remind of ourselves of what really matters — our health, our relationships, our families – and just stop.
Because if we stop allowing ourselves to always feel behind, and instead just allow ourselves to remember what matters, the important things do actually get done. Believe it or not.
And once things important things in the business are getting done, then we feel less guilt for letting life in.
Remember, fashion business owners…
- Emails can sit in your inbox
- Tasks can wait until tomorrow.
- Your business will not implode if you allow other things into your life.
BUT. There is one caveat that I must address. This cannot be your excuse to get lazy or put off that project. You still have to be disciplined and determined.
You just have to be realistic about the hours in your day, the days in your month, the months in your year, and the years in your life.
Because what will you look back on and want to remember? The fact that you answered all your emails within 24 hours or that fact that you spent your life with the people you love while running a business that had a positive impact on the lives of others?
All my love and encouragement,