I think every time we make an excuse about why we can’t do something, it stems from fear of rejection.
Fear of rejection paralyses us. We can’t seem to move past the the idea that someone will say no to us, or laugh at us, so (whether consciously or subconsciously) we avoid situations that could put us in that situation.
The thing is, our fear of rejection is probably doing a lot more to harm us than we realize.
- When we fear rejection, we don’t put ourselves out there.
- When we fear rejection, we don’t try new things.
- When we fear rejection, we don’t take risks.
These may seem like vague ideas but they’re not. Apply them to the specifics and see what I mean.
We don’t put ourselves out there = we don’t talk about about the work we’re doing or build brand recognition.
We don’t put ourselves out there = we don’t let ourselves become vulnerable or create relationships with our audience.
We don’t try new things = we do the same old posting on Instagram, wondering why it’s not an effective sales channel for us.
We don’t try new things = we don’t pitch a trunk show or invest in a pop up shop or find new and interesting ways to make sales.
We don’t take risks = we don’t pick up the phone and actually call a buyer.
We don’t take risks = we stick to the same boring language and corporate copy we’re used to rather than speaking from the heart.
Do you see what I mean? These are just a few of the examples that came to mind as I am writing this post. But our fear of rejection reaches far more areas of our business than just this.
Rejection is going to happen. This is business, not everyone is going to get what you’re doing. And not everyone is going to care. It’s important that we all understand that and work to move past it.
The designers I see reaching their goals and growing their businesses, are the ones that don’t let a fear of rejection stop them from doing whatever they need to do to make things happen.
When you’re hesitating to do something, or find yourself nervous about what could happen if you try something, remind yourself that this fear, this anxiety in your belly, is all part of the process. Ask yourself how important the success of your business is to you. And when you answer “very!”, then you know it’s time to ignore the fear, accept the possibility of rejection, and then do it anyway.
Lots of love and encouragement,