Lately I’ve been all about getting better at setting my business vibe in the morning. I mean, beyond creating a morning routine, I’ve started to work on what I allow myself to be exposed to in the early part of the day, from types of emails to certain phone call topics.
The reason for this is that sometimes I’m inadvertently putting myself in a bad mood by allowing too much negativity to ooze in. And that mood could stick around for the entire day, if I’m not careful.
See, whenever you’re working on something that’s proving to be successful, you will inevitably attract all kinds of people. Some of these people are amazing (customers who love your product, colleagues offering helpful feedback, loved ones cheering you on) and other people are not so amazing (people criticizing your offering, jealous competitors disguised as colleagues, moochers).
We’ve all been there. In putting ourselves out there it’s almost as if we’re inviting people to give their opinion on what we do and how we do it. And depending on who these people are, the interaction could turn out to be less than inspiring.
So I’m finding that it’s really important to control what I will allow myself to deal with at the start of my day.
Because when it comes down to it, we’re the ones who are responsible for setting the tone for our day and if we open ourselves up to the negative, it can really impact how the next 12 to 15 hours of our life pans out.
Now, there are two categories of negativity that can infiltrate your day: serious, direct, on-purpose negativity and harmless, indirect, not-really-that-big-a-deal negativity.
The latter is made up of things like people unsubscribing to your email list or people unfollowing you in Instagram. These things can hurt a little but ultimately, they don’t matter.
Then there’s the other kind of negativity. You know, the kind that comes in the form of emails from people typing in ALL CAPS because they don’t agree with your point of view. It’s the customer who finds fault in everything you create. It’s the “friend” who’s wanted to start her own business for a long time but has never found the guts and grit to do so. This kind of negativity can actually be dangerous if you let it in.
It can cause you to doubt your work, overthink your decisions, and stop moving forward.
So you have to find a way to keep out it as much much as possible.
I know that as business owners, we’re supposed to be able to separate ourselves from that stuff.
But that’s not always easy. Is it?
Well, one thing that has really helped me is to stop letting this stuff in so early in the damn day! When we start our days with the negative, it’s hard to pull ourselves out of it as the day goes on. The negative sort of latches onto our brains and keeps us anxious and emotional to the point of paralysis.
Listen, there will always be people who are determined to spread their negative vibe all over the place. If we let them, they can have a really shitty impact on our person and our business. There’s no way to avoid this entirely (it’s the nature of being a business with a personality!) but we can try our best to block it out and forget them.
So let’s focus on our work and why we’re doing what we’re doing! Let’s remember what we’re working so hard to do and how we’re helping our community in whatever way our business has set out to help.
Lots of love and encouragement,